more of y'all need to internalize the significance of surprise w/r/t information theory https://plus.maths.org/content/information-surprise

"I don't like this person" why on earth are you volunteering this to me? why the fuck would I care?

(it's social stroking with a shaming valence and I hate it) https://twitter.com/sonyasupposedly/status/1283070846739734530

this person is Bad™ Sonya!!!! you must know!!!!

congrats, you have meta-informed me that you are boring. go think about what you did

you are +EV to talk to, or I don't talk to you. these are your choices. I will make a few appeasement attempts out of loyalty if we have a preexisting relationship, but you've got maybe five of those before I snap and give up https://twitter.com/sonyasupposedly/status/1282757942408646656

tangentially, it is *very* important to be willing and able to break off friendships and abandon associations. otherwise anyone you've befriended at any point in your life has free reign to abuse you. I have raised my standards over time and some people have not cleared them

fwiw I'm sure that I do this too, and you should call me out if you notice it https://twitter.com/sonyasupposedly/status/1283098838450860032