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10 things you should never do to a system (my opinion, I'm not speaking on everyone's behalf! If you disagree or want to add something I missed, feel free to DM us or leave a reply!)
1. Try to trigger out certain alters without their/system's consent. No matter how badly you want to talk to that alter, don't do this
2. Engage in sexual activity with littles. They are literal children, what the fuck are you doing??
3. Ignore system's triggers. Even if they sound silly to you, respect them
4. Touch alters that don't like to be touched, ask non-verbal alters to talk, force alters that can't write to write etc. You won't tell a blind person to start seeing, then why are you doing this?
5. Ask a system about their trauma, force them to talk about it. This information is very personal and triggering, so it's understandable if systems do not want to share it or are not ready yet
6. Force fictives to be exactly like in their source. They are they own people and can decide who to be, who to date etc
7. Call persecutors 'bad', 'the rude one' etc. Of course, they can look like that, but they are often traumatized, hurt and misguided. I'm sure the system already tries to help them and by saying 'they're bad, they'll never change', you just make everything worse
8. See alter's role as their whole personality. You can't even imagine how many times we heard something like 'You're a sexual alter so let's fuck, you have to be a sl*t!' or 'You're a protector and you like TV shows?? Why do you like that, that's not protecting the system!'
9. Get angry on an alter because they switched out. Don't say something like 'Oh, damn, it's you, call me when [...] will be out again' or 'Why have you switched out when I was talking to [...]? Who asked you??' Especially if an alter was triggered out, it is very invalidating
10. Say that system is faking. You can't tell if someone is faking not being their therapist. No matter how big system is, how many fictives it has etc etc, it is still valid
