As part of a thread I wrote a little while ago, I referenced the lack of community a lot of male subs display, I’m guessing the reason is related to this: https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-terrible-price-of-our-epidemic-of-male-loneliness-5be6463fd0e0">https://medium.com/@remaking...

“They can’t just say, I like you, I want to spend time with you, because in that moment, they are not simply saying I like you, they are also declaring they want to be seen and needed.”

This isn’t solely a feature of American culture, it’s present in many cultures.

I think the vulnerability that submission can bring with it could be a bridge from this isolation but, funnily, even in this space men tend to isolate themselves.

I recognize many traits in myself: I try to be open & available but often end up not fully showing my emotions.

For some reason, I have always felt it was my job to “keep it together” when everyone else is falling apart. Or to subjugate my need for connection to “duties” imposed on me (probably by myself).

It’s a hard box to step out of, and I consider myself to be a relatively emotionally aware man. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😅" title="Lächelndes Gesicht mit offenem Mund und Angstschweiß" aria-label="Emoji: Lächelndes Gesicht mit offenem Mund und Angstschweiß">

I guess I have a long way to go still and need to think on how to foster stronger, more meaningful connections in my day-to-day life.

The fact I’m posting this here behind a pseudonym, instead of on a vanilla account, is telling in itself. I still worry what such candor might awaken there. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😏" title="Grinsendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Grinsendes Gesicht">