yes this is Kind Of about a current trend but i genuinely think this all the time and will continue to think it forever

if u, like me, cannot imagine completely giving up self deprecation as a form of humor i at least implore u to try to switch to only making self deprecating jokes abt stuff you’re not ACTUALLY insecure abt instead of finding Funny But Mean ways to reframe real vulnerabilities

example, i am pretty sure that i’m hot and i don’t worry abt it much (outside of dysphoria) so i can make as many “i look like a possum who was turned into a human against its will” jokes as i want. but i ACTUALLY struggle w beating myself up over productivity,

so i don’t rt “i’m an artist who never ever draws lol!!!! cringe!!! productivity fail!!!” posts bc deep down the problem is a nasty voice in my head ACTUALLY believes that, and i refuse to feed that little jackass. not even crumbs

if you’re sure that a certain nasty thing you’re about to say abt yourself isn’t actually going to fall down any cracks in your brain and feed some tiny jackass that lives there, knock yourself out. but a lot of times i think that’s a sincere danger