As many of you know, I've been very critical of @FocusFamily for the last year, largely because of their support for Love & Respect. As I know look back at several things I've critiqued, I've noticed a common theme: they blame women for men's sin.

For instance, a book they published last year, "How God Used the Other Woman", said, "Her husband's infidelity didn't mean the end of her marriage. Her willingness to ask the question, "what role did you play in this?" saved her marriage.

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/07/are-you-to-blame-if-your-spouse-cheats-on-you/

In November 2019, on one of their broadcasts, the host said that perhaps the reason so many husbands turned to porn was that they weren't getting enough sex at home, ignoring all current research on porn and its effects. https://twitter.com/sheilagregoire/status/1197934328262647809

Brio magazine told teen girls that:

"If a guy sees a girl walking around in tight clothes, a miniskirt or short shorts, you might as well hang a noose around the neck of his spiritual life.”

HIM seeing HER = DEAD spiritual life. His lust is her fault. https://twitter.com/sheilagregoire/status/1282307255975718912

Then there's their book Love & Respect, which tells women whose husbands are "drinking or straying" or who have "withering rage" so much so that the wives want to "get away and hide" that they should instead show unconditional respect (including sex).

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/

Despite our report where 100s of women said it enabled abuse, & our survey of 20,000 Christian women where it was named the most harmful Christian resource, FOTF said they believe L&R has a "biblically sound, empowering message for wives."

(my response): https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/statement-in-response-to-focus-on-the-familys-statement-regarding-me/

The common thread in all of these things is that, when there is a marriage problem, the wife is at the root of that problem. Even if he is the one sinning against her, she should be the one to blame herself and change to keep the marriage together.

This is not healthy.

And it makes one wonder: Can we trust Focus on the Family to be a safe resource for advice and help for marriages?

From the above, it’s evident that, tragically, we cannot.

One more commonality in the things I’ve mentioned. They’re all things published by Focus on the Family itself, or said by FOTF hosts.

FOTF features great authors on their broadcasts (I’ve even been on them!), but what THEY publish themselves is problematic—and revealing.