I prob should make my own post about Cal - I gave myself a night to process it and I should talk about it myself - so people who have been abused can see the warning signs and not be like me where I walked into a terrible situation.

But before I do I will say even with this going on, I feel happier with the community I’ve cultivated with my followers and discord server as well as having a partner who is literally the nicest person I’ve had the pleasure to spend time with. You are all great.

I began talking to Callie back in January, and some of our first interactions were sexual - with my fursona. I went through my old dms and I never got a screen and if I need to I will... there’s just a lot of triggering things in those dms. At the time he told me that his-

relationship was “open” and he and his partner (vee) “communicated well” - I was with Alex at the time so I told him as long as it was with my fursona it’s fine but his language didn’t always line up with my fursona rather with me as a person - I wrote it off at the time.

Once I left Alex in February we did not talk until around March/April - a time where I was publically distressed and dealing with trauma. He knew that and he’s an opportunist ultimately so he swooped back in my dms and was immidately sexual with me.

Once he and his partner broke up offically he was in my dms venting to me and admitting that yes, he was very much a chaser - and again I was like “okay, normal cis person” but at the time I just liked the fact that he was nice to me and at the time respected me.

Now for the part I’m scared to talk about but it must be said - I allowed him to be my dom. Now, I have experience with dom/sub relationships, I’m a switch ive done both and I know to do it SAFELY. And even over text, it was not safe at all.

You may be like, “Ridge you were abusive relationship for 8 years why the FUCK would you be in a dom sub relationship?” And the answer is “I do not fucking know.” At the time I felt that submitting myself would be the answer but it is Not. Do not be Like Me. Learn from my mistake

As for the unsafe aspects there was a very bizzare thing I’ve never encountered before. He would coerce me into coercing him into being in a relationship with me. Never saying yes or no, putting the decisions - big decisions, on to me.

Here is some examples of this. Also yes he asked me to take his virginity when I came up there which I now I have learned that’s a common thing with him (sorry Twitter is destroying some of these screens I’m on mobile)

Yes the virginity stuff was weird and I should of fucking ran when that came up. It put me in a position that I did not like, and him saying that I “really wanted it” made me feel like I was the one being gross - and it really sunk into my mind.

Also I did not give him permission to be called a wh*re. He called me that several times and none of them registered at the time because I was so used to in my abusive relationship to be called slurs like f*g r*t*rded by my abuser.

He called me a wh*re a lot. To the point I saw it so much I broke down crying while on call with my partner. I never realized how objectified I was. At the time I genuinely felt like I wh*re myself and I didn’t realize that those feelings came from him sexually manipulating me.

Now for another thing I’m scared to talk about but I guess I have to. My father is a multimillionaire but I only get 500 dollars from my family and I use it sparingly. When I do get money from them I do my best to redistribute it among my friends when I can.

I made the mistake of telling him about my dad Suddenly during sessions he would bring up how hot it would be if I bought him things with my parents money. I did stand up for myself that I was not going to have money and sex cross over and if he wanted money there would be no sex

He also publically shamed me twice, one I have receipts for but the other I do not because at that time I was done with him and walked away. I was in a stream watching him play Broken Reality and there’s a part where you can hard lock your game so I was pointing it out to him.

He got upset on stream, called me out by name, and ended the stream. He was incredibly dismissive of me confronting him about it. At this time he knew about Alex, and what Alex did to me. He eventually apologized but this conversation beforehand speaks for itself.

He would often say stuff on his Twitter that would make me dislike him once we stopped talking regularly - saying he wanted the people “he actually cared for” to talk to him and constantly beg interaction from mutuals.

I had responded to one of these with a tiktok and he deleted it and said “nevermind.” Which made me so fucking mad because this fucker sexually manipulated me and then had the audacity to treat me like I was someone he “wanted to be aplatonic with.” Yes Cal, I remember that tweet

At the end of the day it wasn’t a session, he genuinely viewed me as a fuck toy he could “pound his pups in” rather than a real person. I was a wh*re to use and I believed it for a while. Like I said, I’m happier right now than I have ever have been in years.

I have a wonderful partner, wonderful friends, and a fantastic community of people I’ve acquired. Thank you so much for your support this past year and a half, I’m so glad I’m apart of this community and I can be free and myself for once.

If you are reading this, have a wonderful day. I know I will. I feel lighter knowing that one of my abusers actually got what he deserved and will hopefully be deplatformed before he can hurt anyone else.