here’s how to know you’re dealing with a narcissist- a thread;

Is that particular person ALWAYS in drama (falling out with people) or feeds off of it? (As in finds the most joy in reality television/various media outlets that usually cover it? yea. it screams narcissism. people like that have to ramble abt others constantly to

make themselves look or feel superior in some way (it’s basic psychology taken too far) also, pay attention to HOW they talk about people. regardless of the drama, someone should never rally you to go against someone else/demonize them through our next one which is...

MANIPULATION: A narcissist can have random outbursts of coercion (usually when they’re currently going through their unavoidable drama)....talking about said specific situation for attention/strategically bringing up a discussion of shit talk about a certain person...

A conversation or a condescending speech? do you have trouble talking to someone without them trying to shut you down constantly? they get a whole speech to say to you without you being able to utter three words or less? Yes- attention on them only. what they say matters more.

is anything ever enough to them? not really. they can complain about one thing you’re doing wrong, you finally do it right with minimum praise but maximum complaints about a totally different thing they’ve discovered isn’t perfect enough from you :((

MATERIALISM=LOVE: Narcissists generally like the praise and joy that comes after receiving a gift from them...and maybe even if they’re the worst types, they’ll use it against you. this is unfortunately their only interpretation of love beyond verbal/emotional treatment...

*a note on the last one (sexual contact taken as a priority when it comes to narcissistic significant others is also a slight form of materialism/praise goal for them) if your s/o does all the things above AND cherishs sexual activity the most as well?? NARCISSIST. shallow ppl!

GASLIGHTING: I’m pretty sure we all know what this is by now but yea...if you find yourself to go through overwhelming phases of insecurity/distortion of self image IRONICALLY after being talked down to?? DON’T give in-shake it off. you’re being demonized due to THEIR insecurity!

Inconsistent morals/perspectives: this might be hard to point out by ppl who aren’t as analytical/strategic with verbal communication- but to simplify it....if you just can’t keep up with a narc’s beliefs, ideas, basic discussions? then...they’re abusive/narcissistic..

^ narcissists do or say everything in their power to try to sound smarter than the people around them....ironically even if it means not being able to keep up with their own lies/claims. Again, hard to point out of you don’t analyze others philosophies or morals but generally...

they’re hypocrites. next thing so similar to the last, if someone you know seems to be dimensional around other people (even if it’s in a positive way) do NOT FALL FOR IT!!! Complexity isn’t always truth!!! Especially with them!!! You have a right to be suspicious if...

Said individual is rude to you but nice to everyone else on social media which- the next one is similar to the last and previous ones but...

(This mainly could apply to family members) but isn’t it annoying when you hear this person complain, gossip, critique someone but make small talk and smile in their face another day?? NARCISSIST!! Ironically even if they’re evil to others, they’re OBSESSED with their image even

if it means putting up a fake smile to the person they despise, they don’t care...they just like reeling people in ;)

Do you have this person in your life who complains about everyone else constantly, holds themselves High yet seems to be....emotionally unavailable??? Too “tough” to communicate?? That screams narcissism and can be annoying. Don’t

Look up to these “resilient” traits if you’re someone who’s a soft being because it easily can turn into abuse and 90% gives them a gateway to manipulating you into being like them as well/ shaming you for your emotional awareness and intelligence...

this one is obvious but- putting you down??? Do you try to mention the things they say that hurt you and they just shrug it off or GASLIGHT you like I mentioned before?? You’re entitled to your emotions. If someone makes you angry/hurts you- don’t be convinced that

you’re too sensitive or ungrateful which leads me to my last two main signs. does this person constantly feel the need to point out your “privileges” or hype themselves up more than you??? Ew. This is another form of manipulation to downplay your problems/praise them- NO!!!!

Last one but- is this person morally/socially inconsistent One moment they want peace and next their vengeful and mad? Narcissism. The only way they have full control and attention is by analyzing Situations and picking which attitude to have to seem smart/better *moral baiting*

IMPORTANT NOTE: if you’re dealing with someone who is likely to have narcissistic personality disorder definitely consider the fact that it’s still a disorder!!! Do your research and do NOT depend on my tweets- these are just a few things I picked up from experience...also

Understand that narcissism or any personality disorder stems from long time issues and be a symptom of or lead to other disorders. Do not downplay another persons mental health because of your abuse. I know it sucks but we all need help and love so spread it, don’t be spiteful!

The best thing you can do if you’re dealing with a narcissist in your life is to (well, cut them off if their THAT detrimental to you) but generally, maintain a social distance if you can’t cut them off completely (so that applies to anyone who deals with family like me :p)

We all need understanding and patience, if you struggle there someone else who is BUT MAINTAIN a healthy mental balance. It’s okay to have anger with that person while also learning to understand them and keep your distance for your safety and health!!!

Learn about the ppl around you. I doubt anyone will see this thread but if u have any questions ask em. decayher out