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You& #39;re missing the point, my guy. Publicly shaming people is a terrible way to motivate positive change. Of course there are negative health outcomes associated with certain weights. I don& #39;t think anyone is denying that, and if they are they& #39;re anti-science. https://twitter.com/ayeimtyler/status/1281001566020014086">https://twitter.com/ayeimtyle...
But acknowledging that is not mutually exclusive to thinking that people should feel comfortable in their own body, not when they change, but right now. Comfort isn& #39;t complacency in this instance, and I think if you really want to see people get better, their self-esteem
is an important factor in that. I would bet you anything that when people lose/gain weight to get healthier, it& #39;s because the people around them are supportive of them right now, not conditionally to their change. I don& #39;t know your motivations, Tyler.
But I almost always assume that someone is arguing in good faith, because I would like to believe that they want to do the right thing. I know it& #39;s hard, but consider the nuanced option here: that you can both support someone and acknowledge the reality of their health.
I didn& #39;t plan to continue this thread, but I& #39;ll go ahead and share my own story about weight. I had pretty severe depression my senior year, and part of that manifested as nausea. I got to the point where I could only eat one meal per day, and even that was a struggle.
I lost about 20 pounds in two months. I had always been skinny, but this was a new level. I felt like there was no way out, but that period of my life eventually passed. And you know why? Because my family and friends were incredibly supportive.
They cared enough to talk to me about my weight and the underlying issues. It wasn& #39;t overnight, but I can say with reasonable certainty that if they had withheld that support on the condition that I got better, I wouldn& #39;t have.
I was really ashamed at the time, to be depressed and to be so... small. It made me feel like less of a man, and I didn& #39;t want people to think that I was weak. Adding more shame to that really could have broken me. I hope my argument and story mean something to somebody. /thread
