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I take my spouses mental health very seriously. Black men haven’t been allowed a space to vent, be vulnerable, and heard and I try to fight that as much as I can. Here’s a thread of what I try to do for my man:
Silence: sometimes you gotta shut the fuck up. That can be listening, watching, or space but shut. up. (Sometimes) this can be tricky, so we set up some code words to signal to this very moment.
When there is time for a necessary convo: start with why you think it is necessary. Shutting up does not mean avoid serious things, but making sure that is the time and place and making space for it.
Make him get active: walk, work out, do something active. If he tells me he wants to do it together I will, sometimes in complete silence until he’s ready to talk.
Therapy: it’s not something to do when things get bad, do it to know what to do when things get bad. I start with our insurance company as a resource for therapy. But googling is great too.
Give him space: it’s not drastic. I’ll grab the kids and go to the store, visit my mom, make them go to the park anything to give him a quiet house after a long day. The key to this is: noticing when he needs it, because he’s not going to say it 
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Help him express himself: journals and books are our thing. I get him books I think he likes and I spy on his amazon wish list. The most recent journal I got him is from http://setinsoul.com"> http://setinsoul.com
Know: it’s the little things. And it’s important to be consistent. Communication is key but it ain’t shit without comprehension especially in a relationship. I keep picking up on things that help him with his mental, and I’m forever willing to be his student and teacher.
Last but not least: prayer and meditation. I pray over him and with him. I’ll give him a full body massage and speak his affirmations over him while practicing breathing techniques. We’re on a new journey with EFT & Reiki DM me if you have questions. I don’t have a lot yet but...
OH LAST: I forgot this very important part.....
EVERYTHING AINT ABOUT YOU!! Step outside yourself to see things from his point of view.
EVERYTHING AINT ABOUT YOU!! Step outside yourself to see things from his point of view.
