my cousin, 2 years younger, is getting married soon. she's marrying her long term boyfriend. from what i know, her boyfriend has, so far, forced her to wear a hijab, not go to university events, or socialize with any guy friends. she's also on the phone with him 24/7, sometimes -

unwillingly. he gets upset when she doesn't listen to him, if she doesn't respond fast enough. he asks her friends about her activities. surveillance itni hai kay she has lie to him at time. i have tried talking to her, she won't listen. young love, mohabat andhi hot hai, etc.

her own mother warned her several times kay yay behaviour cute nahi, shadeed creepy hai. she's marrying by choice, great. but if all of us can see the red flags, i.e. the adults, why aren't we stopping this from happening? itni jaldi hai bayti ki shaadi karanay ki?

everytime I've brought this up mujhay chup kara dia jata hai because i am single and older so i must be jealous obvs like bc are you not seeing this pattern of abuse it will only get worse once she signs the contract and I can't do anything about it because SHE WON'T LISTEN TO ME

kis kis ko bachayen gay hum, Allah reham karay bas

I can't do anything about it now because we're only a few weeks away from the wedding. I'm heartbroken. Chohti behen hai meri, lekin meri baat kisi nay na suni, na koi sunay ko tyar hai. She tells me relationships are compromise. This isn't compromise, this is abuse.