i was mutuals w this person and she hit on me too and it was weird af but i dont like everyone misgendering her in the comments. she uses she pronouns and almost every comment refers to her as they or he, not the fault of OP at all but just an example of ppl being transphobic https://twitter.com/cisdestroyer/status/1280518527846363136

this shit is so mired in sexual respectability politics that people see a transfem being weird and instantly call them a man just to try and save the reputation of trans people. check the replies, even the ppl correcting ppl misgendering her are calling her "they"

like there is no way you can make misgendering trans women and calling things they do manly into a woke thing. i stg so many cis "allies" and even other trans ppl take advantage of transphobia to fuck w trans ppl they dont think deserve respect

misgendering or calling the actions of any trans woman manly for literally any single reason will never make me trans women as a whole feel good or safe or whatever youre going for. it just lets us know u have that shit locked and loaded for the next trans person u wanna fuck w/

like i get making a mistake but if youre already taking the trouble to go to her profile and look at her pronouns why not even use the ones she has there when correcting people?? we gotta stop this idea of people "deserving" their own pronouns or not