The answer to “are men trash” is a lot more complicated than “yes and ‘good men’ know that it isn’t about them” btw

For as long as societal norms are in place to put men at an advantage, for as long as we, who identify as men, benefit from these norms at the expense of the feminine perspective, men will be trash. It is nothing personal. We all have to work on it. Acknowledge it.

Subconsciously we associate femininity(and “feminine” traits) with weakness. It is not our fault for acquiring this notion, but entirely our fault for continuing to believe. A man is pressured to be masculine, to be strong and assertive, to not be “gay”, literally or not.

A man is taught his whole life to reject “femininity”, and at times we men suffer for it, but ultimately we are equipped against this bias. A woman cannot reject femininity. A woman will always be seen as feminine. A woman is born into this society to suffer.

No matter how strong a woman is she will forever be under scrutiny; she could be girly and feminine or tomboyish and masculine and either way still be seen in a negative light. She could subscribe to the traditional roles of a woman and be demure and quiet,

or to the “empowered woman” and reclaim her sexuality and be loud and outspoken like a “man”, and either way she will be constantly patronized. This is how the gender binary affects us all adversely; this is why feminism is a man’s issue as well, while being called feminism.

This is why your feminism cannot exclude the LGBT, ESPECIALLY the trans community. This is why your feminism cannot exclude women of color. This is why feminism is more than misandry and questions of whether or not men are trash: the answer is yes, but it’s not the only question.