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So I wanted to talk about the subtle abuse men face. I wanted to do it for awhile now but I really haven't had time to collect my thoughts.
(Also this isn't in contrast to abuse women face or playing pick a side, all abuse is harmful regardless of gender)
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So I wanted to talk about the subtle abuse men face. I wanted to do it for awhile now but I really haven't had time to collect my thoughts.
(Also this isn't in contrast to abuse women face or playing pick a side, all abuse is harmful regardless of gender)
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I was talking to my partner and I also addressed it at an LPM abortion discussion where I was a guest. How Men are perceived In a way that means assistance isn't usually given, or seen as needed.
I was talking to my partner and I also addressed it at an LPM abortion discussion where I was a guest. How Men are perceived In a way that means assistance isn't usually given, or seen as needed.
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I was expressing to my partner how my first sexual encounter was coerced out of me and I only realized after a deep discussion on consent with some peers that my first encounter was forced out of me.
I was expressing to my partner how my first sexual encounter was coerced out of me and I only realized after a deep discussion on consent with some peers that my first encounter was forced out of me.
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My partner later debriefed me that she had struggled to wrap her mind around it because she thought I'm such a big man, I tower people, am significantly stronger and I'm probably intimidating to most women, how could I be a victim to someone half my size?
My partner later debriefed me that she had struggled to wrap her mind around it because she thought I'm such a big man, I tower people, am significantly stronger and I'm probably intimidating to most women, how could I be a victim to someone half my size?
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And though force is a number one tool in most Abuse. We tend to not consider the other effective tools, in psychological harms, from manipulation, belittling, emotional blackmail, verbal abuse, threats and harrasment
This are just usually as harmful as physical force.
And though force is a number one tool in most Abuse. We tend to not consider the other effective tools, in psychological harms, from manipulation, belittling, emotional blackmail, verbal abuse, threats and harrasment
This are just usually as harmful as physical force.
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And so it was two things at play. The limited thought that most abuse is physical force. The idea a bigger person can't be abused because they may have the ability to utilize force.
abuse is more than force n people who don't have a monopoly on force tend to use other means
And so it was two things at play. The limited thought that most abuse is physical force. The idea a bigger person can't be abused because they may have the ability to utilize force.
abuse is more than force n people who don't have a monopoly on force tend to use other means
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Bigger individuals(men) can be beaten too especially by women and it won't be taken seriously because "it didn't hurt, she is small" "come on you a big guy" and if you defend yourself it's he is a big man how can he lay his hands on her. Etc
Bigger individuals(men) can be beaten too especially by women and it won't be taken seriously because "it didn't hurt, she is small" "come on you a big guy" and if you defend yourself it's he is a big man how can he lay his hands on her. Etc
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But the main tools are usually psychological, especially when it comes to getting consent women would be like "your not a man" "you must be gay" "if you say no now don't ever ask me again" "you are weak" "who did you sleep/cheat with today"
If a man dared to say no
But the main tools are usually psychological, especially when it comes to getting consent women would be like "your not a man" "you must be gay" "if you say no now don't ever ask me again" "you are weak" "who did you sleep/cheat with today"
If a man dared to say no
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Anyways so the women at the Lpm thing and my partner better checked that abuse isn't only force. That men can be abused by partners half their size.
U can listen to my thoughts clearly in this episode of my Podcast.
Link: https://anchor.fm/lifalaza/episodes/Episode-1-The-Abuse-Men-Face-eaqg78
Anyways so the women at the Lpm thing and my partner better checked that abuse isn't only force. That men can be abused by partners half their size.
U can listen to my thoughts clearly in this episode of my Podcast.
Link: https://anchor.fm/lifalaza/episodes/Episode-1-The-Abuse-Men-Face-eaqg78
