One of the angriest male acquaintances I have came out as a transwoman today. My heart sank. I am glad of the new found, seemingly very genuine, personal happiness that was expressed but I wince at the inevitable toll on women of someone so full of male rage in their spaces.

I find it hard to comprehend the lack of regard for women society has to have to be ok with much of this. How someone wants to express themselves&what they want to be called is theirs but how we respond to that as a society is all of ours

Society just threw women to the wolves

It has said, over and over and in so many ways,that what women think or feel or what happens to them as a result of all this is incidental. That to even mention it makes women unforgivable. That women can’t have any safety or parameters over who identifies in to their sex class.

Even the great&the good have accepted the rage,the entitlement, the sexualising,the threatening,the denigration,the ostracising, the silencing&the venom we must endure over this as being somehow justifiable. Or at least not worthy of notice. It’s only aimed at women, after all.

I know how it will go with my acquaintance. Everything will be fine and dandy as long as women say yes, as long as women are supportive, as long as women bend. The second they say no they will be in trouble, and at potential risk of violence as well as the inevitable haranguing.

Maybe that’s the whole point.Society has never enjoyed women saying no. It has,sometimes, grudgingly accepted us saying no in some circumstances&contexts but,still,it tends to dislike it&come up with reasons why our no is hateful,or not to be believed&can therefore be disregarded

Women who say no often get in the way of male desires and suffer for it

That many of us have decided to keep repeating the word no as though we have the right to say it,now,must seem so outrageous that it’s hard for many people to know what to do with it.Except try&make us stop

In the end,though,they’ll listen. Even most of those who have been conditioned to treat women’s no as a scandal will have to realise,with any serious thought,that we are right.More&more ppl are really thinking about this,everyday

There’s also the fact that women will not falter:

A friend of mine put it best. He said “if this is a war on women, I’m with women.”

Then he thought about it and added

“I’ve seen women when they’re determined, too. They’re slow to anger but once they get there, only a fool or a madman would stand in their way”.