Question for the timeline.

A friend of mine (male) told me about a date he had recently. He invited someone over to his place for dinner, with the established agreement that his date would cook the dinner, and he would order the groceries. This wasn't a first date.

Anyway, his date shows up and cooks dinner for them as agreed, and the evening goes as well as can be expected, but at the end of the night his date kept insisting on taking the food back home, and asked him to pack it all up in Tupperware so she could leave with it.

Is that ok?

I've been thinking about this one and I'm not sure how I feel about it. Maybe she felt that since she put the effort into cooking the meal, she had to take it home with her? Maybe she was just hungry? Maybe she enjoys leftovers?

I mean... it's definitely an odd thing to do.

Ok I'll add this other detail; he said that he hadn't been as hungry that evening and didn't "show enthusiasm" about eating the food, but had explained this to her and apologized for his not eating.

Does this make what she did ok?

Which actually begs the question, is it rude to not eat food that someone specifically prepares for you, either in their home or yours?

The more I think about it, the more this seems like a tit for tat situation with poor communication and hurt feelings on her side.

Lol I just got more insight from him (he's seeing this thread and the responses). Apparently, the idea hadn't really been for them to eat together. He had wanted to treat her, so the food was actually FOR her, but I think she had assumed that he would also eat it with her.

So I guess it's fine then, her behavior given this additional context.

I can understand why you would want to take food home that was intended to be for you in the first place.

It obviously goes without saying, but this guy is Nigerian. I just wanted to add this additional information so you can get some further context.

Sigh.