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)for example: being socialized as girl has made it easier for me to understand why i used to feel like i always had to perform for men and why i felt pressure all the time to stay quiet when men would talk over me https://twitter.com/fr0wns/status/1280318903298789378
)for example: being socialized as girl has made it easier for me to understand why i used to feel like i always had to perform for men and why i felt pressure all the time to stay quiet when men would talk over me https://twitter.com/fr0wns/status/1280318903298789378
going out of my way to strive to be everything in one comes from being raised as a girl by someone who began understanding her ideals during the 80s- i was taught to be everything-in-one while also catering to men. it isnât enough to do one or the other.
this meant backing down from arguments with authority figures that were men, meanwhile my brother, only a year older than me, was always taught to stand his ground, stick to his ideals, and never take no as an answer. expectations were never as high for him as they were for me
which i know is common amongst people socialized as women. i was taught to put things i wanted on the backburner to cater to my brother and my dad. i cooked for them when my mom was out of town, i drove my brother everywhere because he didnât want to get a license when i could
simply do it for him, which took up so much of my time- my dad often commented on my appearance while my brothers was never a concern. i always prepared sedar with my mom while my brother and dad napped and did nothing all day, and then helped clean during/after
doing everything while trying to balance extracurriculars of my own and also trying to keep my grades up with an enormously declining mental health that a conversation was never encouraged for because âlife isnât fair and thatâs just how things are for âgirlsââ
unpacking and unlearning in therapy the idea that i had to constantly please men has been a godsend for real, it really has made my life feel more worth living now that i live more for myself than anyone else. but this is only one of many examples of
how being socialized as a girl has impacted my identity and understanding of my gender, and how i now experience being non-binary who rarely feels âfemale-alignedâ.
anyways iâm high and these are just some thoughts off the top of my head that have nothing to do w the OG a tweet i quote tweeted but i thought it was worth having a conversation about.
anyways if anyone wants to contribute a way that their socialization has impacted their identity iâd really love to talk about it, pls reply
