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a thread of resources to read and consider when writing fic where there is a character who is a wheelchair user. please note this thread will contain NSFW text and images
an overview of issues faced by people identifying as LGBT and disabled: https://www.myhandicap.com/en/information-disability-chonical-illness/relationships-and-sexuality/sexuality-and-disability/lgbts-with-disability/gay-lesbian-disability/
(NSFW, IRL images) hopefully this link works as i can only find the cached version of this article. "'topping' while disabled': http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:KWbLCYK1sD4J:www.newnownext.com/gay-sex-disability-tips/05/2018/+&cd=11&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=uk
(NSFW) more accessible sex positions, both solo and partnered https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/g26723862/disability-sex-positions/
dating and relationship tips: https://disabilityhorizons.com/2018/06/top-dating-relationship-and-sex-tips-for-wheelchair-users/
fantastic online magazine with a lot of excellent articles written by LGBTQ+ people with disabilities. this one article is great, but do look at others on the site also! https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/10-things-google-wont-tell-you-about-disabled-sex-2/
i should note: i am not a wheelchair user, but i am a writer (and researching is my day job). if any wheelchair users would like to contribute to this thread or educate me further please do message me 
