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I've had a couple of days to sit with it so I just want to say a couple of things about what went down the other day in regards to my son.
It turns out that I have tweeted his age a few times, but honestly I tweet about him so rarely that I'd forgotten. That was why my first thought was that someone had taken it from group chat, because we'd just had issues with someone spreading info from it.
But even if my son's info didn't come from chat, that still means people deliberately, specifically searched my Twitter to dig up that info on him. That's just as invasive and gross IMHO.
For a group of people that are very loud about "you can't do anything to us, we're minors," they had no problem searching for and openly discussing my son, a minor, and using him as a weapon to mock and shame me. Disgusting.
He never should have been brought into the discussion to begin with. I know that drama on Twitter is as inevitable as the sun rising every morning, but family should be left out of it. My son is off-limits.
I try to be very conscious about what I post about him online. I don't use his name and I don't post photos without his permission. So the thought that someone had taken his info--which I shared in confidence in private--to use against me was very upsetting.
I realize now that might not have been the case but I still maintain that deep-diving on my account to dig up info on him is wrong and discussing him like "oh he's old enough to be a baby stan!" is wrong.
Lastly, saying "adults can participate in fandom" was not a direct attack on anyone. It was a stance against a mindset I've seen across all fandoms that people over the age of 25 don't belong. Untrue.
And for the record, I'm 36, not 40.
