I would never have 'chosen' to be adopted.

I'm always going to be adopted though.

I can't change my status (because I won't pursue discharge) but I can use my voice to disrupt and challenge the fairy tale.

Adoption is typically only seen from one POV: the adoptive parents. People celebrate this. But,

Who is considering the great loss to the adoptee? Across our lifespan?

Who is considering the natural family? We don't see their angst.

Adoption is lifelong & generational.

Plenary adoption dismantles families and pivots the adoptive parents as saviors.

But, what if I showed you research that reveals the Rship between their desire for babies/child? which in turn drives adoption. Would that concern you?

Demand & find the supply.

What if I told you that if this demand stopped, Govt & agencies might need to shift funding away from the growing Foster Care system & into long term, holistic, family centred support.

What if we put emphasis into supporting kin care?

Reunification.

Guardianship if needed.

What if we stopped convincing mothers/fathers that they are not good enough to parent?

What if adoption was examined through the lens of child abandonment? Would it be so palpable?

What if we all cared about families, kin & communities?

I don't have the answers but it does disturb me.

The MSM does a good job of demonising parents. Yet ignores how wealth is a barrier to CP scrutiny.
https://www.bbc.com/news/amp/uk-england-london-44084298

It should disturb everyone.

It's all about perspective.