Every day I’m disappointed that @jessesingal, @CultExpert & @charlie_mccann chose to ignore the relevance trans male violence/behavior has to many detrans/re-id’d women’s realizations & journeys. My partner (& myself in two cases) did interviews & were clear about the place

experiencing & observing sexual harassment, sexual coercion & abuse, rape, & emotional abuse from trans women had in realizing transition & trans identity was a sexist sham. Each interviewer rejected the information as too complex for a simple narrative.

Yes, women can do these things to each other. It happens every day. That’s not what happened between these male people & us, over & over again. Feminist analysis reveals this easily. The realization that these people are not women came to me before the realization that I was.

Male violence in the trans & queer community goes basically unchecked except by the pointless ebb & flow of callouts, each of which is immediately deemed transmisogynistic. Let trans girls be messy! Do NOT contribute to the stereotype of predatory trans women!

Let male people w/gender identities beg/threaten for nudes, coerce female people into sexual availability, & use the framework of “dfab privilege”, wait, now it’s being “transmisogyny exempt” as a control tactic resulting in countless scared, silenced, subservient female people.

Many if not most of those female people are trans people. I was one, so was my girlfriend. So were many of our detrans & reidentified women friends. Male violence matters. Naming male violence matters. Naming male violence from male trans people is a game changer.

I will never go back to silence. I don’t care how much or little mainstream support there is. All I care about is that other women & girls who’ve experienced this are able to find someone saying they’re not alone.