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ok ladies here the thing... you can shoot your shot!! there& #39;s nothing wrong with letting a man know you& #39;re interested. biblically - look at Ruth! but after he know& #39;s your interest - he needs to take on the role of pursuer. God designed it to work that way. let him take the lead.
if he doesn& #39;t take the lead - he& #39;s simply showing you that he isn& #39;t ready or capable of having a healthy, godly relationship. God designed man to pursue, protect, provide for, cherish, & love women. it& #39;s in a man& #39;s natural instinct. he is made in God& #39;s image & its how God sees us
so if that guy doesn& #39;t make an effort, doesn& #39;t ask you on dates, doesn& #39;t ask any personal/faith related questions, doesn& #39;t take initiative, or make his interest in your known & his intentions made clear- then you need to walk away & stop engaging. he& #39;s showing you he& #39;s not ready.
ladies - God& #39;s design for marriage is for a husband to specifically love his wife, and lead her in God& #39;s way - and for a wife to respect, honor, submit and love her husband. the submission is beautiful when a husband sacrifically loves. but it isn& #39;t if he doesnt know how to love.
God teaches us how to love well. so make sure that guy knows God & takes the Word of God seriously. if he doesn& #39;t know God, he& #39;s not going to know how to love you in the way God intends for you to be loved.
God& #39;s way is what we& #39;re made for. don& #39;t compromise your standards.
God& #39;s way is what we& #39;re made for. don& #39;t compromise your standards.
a true man of God will lead once he has an interest. i don& #39;t mean control - i mean gently, patiently, & loving lead the relationship. he should be getting to know you INTENTIONALLY. look at his actions - not just his words. do you see the fruits of the Spirit in him?
a man who flirts & makes you feel pretty & treats you nice is great - but it gets old real fast if that man is inconsistent, undependable, can& #39;t communicate his feelings, isn& #39;t intentional about your future together, isnt focused on God. wait for the guy who is intentional.
& most importantly - i cannot stress this enough - PRAY. our hearts NEED to be guarded in the beginning stages. our feelings are fickle & we& #39;re prone to infatuation. be in prayer about your worries & feelings. ask for discernment & guidance & CONFIRMATION. God will guide you.
for me - i had a lot of fears from past experiences & was fiercly independent. i had to pray through my anxieties & doubts. jonny was SO patient & kind & clear about his feelings & intentions but NEVER made me feel rushed or pressured to make a decision to "make it official"
i wanted to wait for confirmation from God. i had rushed into things in the past because of loneliess & desire for relationship. so i wanted to be sure. one day God gave me such sudden peace after praying about it & i just knew that he was the one for me. i had clarity.
maybe its not this way for everyone. but God says if he knock, He will answer. so ask for confirmation. wait until you feel peaceful & assured of the decision to commit. get wise counsel & opinions from people who love & care for you. & pray CONTINUALLY.
