I just got asked about what to do when a friend is so far into the Woke cult that he's disowning family members and lifelong friends. That's hard, both emotionally and, so far as answers go, practically. It's a situation a lot of us are in right now, and there are no good answers

Really hard and usually badly dangerous for a relationship to try to confront or intervene with a friend who is falling into a cult. If he's already to the point of disowning family, there are no easy answers. If you intervene, you'll get cut out and probably emotionally abused.

So, if you try to intervene, prepare yourself for that first. It's very hard, but you have to temporarily and partially absolve your friend or loved one of moral responsibility. They're in a kind of frenzy, and they're not themselves. That might turn around later, and that's key.

Most likely, you will just have to let the mania run its course for now and try to reconcile with the person later. Do stay open to it should he come back around. That's one of the most important factors in helping people exit cults. There are ways you can navigate this clearly.

You should tell any such friend that you care about them, and that that won't easily change. You should tell them that you have no interest in pressuring them to do anything except what they feel is best and most important, but that you're not going along or supporting it.

You should make it clear that, under reasonable conditions, you're ready and willing to forgive a lot under these circumstances and will be there for them to reconnect and rebuild, little or no hard feelings, should they come around, but stay firm. You're not going along with.

At that point, get ready for invective and abuse. Get ready for a slammed door, and realize it's a frenzied state pushing someone into being a literally different person than your friend or loved one. They are, for now, someone else. It's still going to hurt, probably a lot.

So, prepare yourself for grief, steel yourself for abuse, and ready yourself to forgive on down the line. That, I'm afraid, is almost all you can do once someone is so invested that they're destroying key relationships for a cult ideology.