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why virginity as a construct makes NO fucking sense (a thread):
virginity by definition is meant when a person has not had sexual intercourse yet. this construct was created solely FOR women to keep them chaste and pure for marriage, upon losing this, makes them obligated to belong to one man and one man only.
virginity was made to serve the institution of marriage, but now it serves another social system: sexism
socially, if a woman had to have her hymen in tact, she’s a virgin. this is destructive considering “virgin” tests are conducted and the women that don’t pass these are ostracized, mocked, shunned and slut shamed
not every woman is born with a hymen so, also - a hymen doesn’t necessarily have to ONLY be broken by a penis through penetration, you can do so through sports, ballet, bike riding, yoga. so these tests are made w the sole purpose of embarrassing and degrading women
virginity is deeply ingrained as a feminine trait, which makes no sense because how are men expected to have “heterosexual sex” and women aren’t expected to have it?
the fact that women are convinced from a young age that keeping your virginity makes you pure and being a “non-virgin” makes you a slut damages young girl’s self esteem and limits their exploration of sexual desire and liberation without feeling guilty (at the appropriate age)
this is paralleled with how being a male virgin is seen as shameful, and having sex would make them explicitly more masculine and lack of sexual experience more feminine - and to be feminine, rather... to be a woman... is seen as shameful
the course of action in “breaking someone’s virginity” by penetrating their hymen is absurd because that means lesbians are ALL virgins then, see the dilemma?
the lie of virginity — the idea that such a thing even exists — is ensuring that young women’s perception of themselves is inextricable from their bodies, and that their ability to be moral actors is absolutely dependent on their sexuality
it’s time to teach our daughters that their ability to be good people depends on them being good people, not on whether or not they’re sexually active
virginity. is a lie. consider the implications women have to face because of innocuously embracing their bodies and feeling freedom. not very good.
there’s nothing wrong in women wanting to “save it” for someone special. you do that, by all means. this thread is purely highlighting how what you want to “save” doesn’t really exist.
this concept was created because a man really thought his dick was so important it changed who a woman was, never give a man that power.
you didn’t “lose” your virginity, nobody “took” it from you. you had sex. that’s it. that’s all that happened.
there’s so much i want to say but i’ll leave it here, let me know if you want to hear more
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