I was in the closet for a whole decade after I figured out I was trans, my parents found my stash of stolen clothes multiple times, I got caught at least once by people coming home early, and STILL everyone was like "this came out of nowhere" when I finally transitioned.

I even tried to come out to one of my siblings a few years before and it went poorly and a few years later when I actually transitioned they didn't even remember that.

The "it's so sudden!" narrative is almost always BS.

Anyway this is a large part of why I still don't trust ANY of my family members and probably why I don't let myself ever get close to anyone.

I don't have any fundraisers to plug so be nice to truck drivers when you drive, give your money to black trans women ( https://www.gofundme.com/f/homeless-black-trans-women-fund), and listen to Lesley Roy's very gay and very catchy new singles:

Obviously you don't have to be nice to truckers when we aren't driving a lot of us are jerks and deserve to be told so more often than we are.

Let's add more to this thread, shall we? There's an important thing to note here:

I'M JUST AS TRANS NOW AT 31 AS I WAS WHEN I TRANSITIONED AT 21 AND WHEN I FIRST FIGURED IT OUT AT 11.

10 years in the closet was neither necessary nor beneficial, and a trans person that figures it out and transitions immediately is just as valid as those of us that spend years trying to be cis while knowing we aren't, because: https://www.twitter.com/calculush/status/1280019371788656640

The point isn't that all trans people carefully consider transitioning for YEARS, it is that no amount of careful consideration will ever be enough for folks that think they know us better than we know ourselves so tell them to fuck off and do it anyway if that is what you want.