studying stalking now & thinking abt a friend i lost b/c she wouldn't stop stalking her shitty ex-bf (like hiding in his house while he was in it) & i didn't know how to handle the situation so i told her i could no longer hang out if she was going to keep doing that...

& so we stopped hanging out. i hear (from ppl who are fb friends w/her) she makes fun of this time of her life now--saying things like "that's as wild as my stalking phase" from time to time. anyway, after years of my life being impacted by stalkers & stalking, i'm studying it...

turns out most of the stalkers i've known or known of fall within the category of "the resentful stalker" according to this text: https://www.cambridge.org/core/books/stalkers-and-their-victims/2B2F75EE36EA8F103C4837C4D8F4699F

"the resentful [stalker] whose stalking emerges in the context of perceiving themselves as a victim of injustice &/or humiliation, motivated by the desire for retribution & sustained by the satisfaction of feeling, for once, powerful & in control."

still reading & this page makes me think debt collectors, telephone solicitors & other sales people should count (not legally) when “we” think abt stalking

once broke up with a guy because he wanted to fuck with one of my neighbors like this after she pissed him off (he wasnt wrong to be angry either but yeah the fixation—nope)

Oh yeah the same guy broke into my apartment after i broke up with him—good times

“Irrespective of whether the intent is malicious or benign, the aim of most stalking is to make one’s presence felt where otherwise it would not exist.”

"Non-psychotic stalkers more often verbally threatened and also were at higher risk of perpetrating an assault."

"The authors concluded on the basis of these findings not only that non-psychotic stalkers show a greater propensity for violence than the psychotic, but that they are more calculating & resourceful in their use of such violence."