The degree to which people don’t know how to make proper Venn diagrams hurts my heart

This is what is currently breaking my brain

The circles should be female, non-binary, monosexual, and not monosexual with those various identities appearing as dots within the overlaps

Like unless you’re saying someone can be non-binary and a woman — which some people would argue — the categories of trixic and sapphic can’t overlap? Unless you want the circles to be “qualified of sapphics” and “qualities of trixics” with not monosexual in the overlap

Btw I got so sidelined by this diagram’s failures as a Venn diagram that I couldn’t fully process how gross and policing the actual content is. If you feel like a lesbian you’re a lesbian, IDGAF if you feel like a woman or not.

I don’t feel like a lesbian but

I would argue that “lesbian” is as much an aligning with an aesthetic and a community as it is about being a woman who loves women; the only people I side eye are straight women who are “politically lesbian” or cis men who claim to have a lesbian trapped inside them.

The thing about insisting non-binary people can’t be this or that or have to use one specific label is that non-binary people are even *less* of a cohesive and discrete category than men and women (who are already pretty fuzzy categorically!).

The idea that, say, a bearded AMAB non-binary femme has the exact same experience as some androgynous AFAB enby is laughable; non-binary experience is varied and complex by its very nature.

For some non-binary people who are attracted to women, “lesbian” may feel like the right descriptor! Others may feel like it’s not! That’s up to them!

I don’t have a problem with people choosing labels that feel correct to them, but I think this idea that if we just make up enough labels we’ll have correctly placed everyone in their own little box is not just bad but actively harmful.

Also lets be real here, trying to push non-binary people out of the lesbian club is ahistorical when you have LESLIE FRICKING FEINBERG writing Stone Butch Blues

“Lesbian” has never been as exact nor as exacting a label as some of you seem to think

I wonder if this is, perhaps, a natural by product of the normalization of lesbianism within mainstream culture; like, when lesbians were outcasts there was no reason to be exclusive, but now that there’s a hint of respectability it’s “don’t let them think the weirds are with us”

I love you, the weirds