4) ...BDSM porn is rarely, in any way, shape or form, real...shocker I know. The only exception to this would be for a couple who are into extreme sadism/masochism and who want to be fucked with their head in a wooden box or whilst suspended, inverted, in back breaking rope...

5) ...bondage or who wish to wear leather trousers whilst wielding a full length bullwhip. If you exist, and you enjoy this then please do carry on with my blessing. Before you start shouting at me that not all BDSM porn is like this then I agree. The amateur videos tend to...

6) ...be more realistic but when do you ever see this tweeted here unless made by an account holder themselves (kudos to you guys). No, what we regularly see is the black and white typical ‘dungeon’ stuff with weird contraptions and tied on wands. Heads up people...don’t...

7) ...tie wands to your subs for any length of time. Clit numbing is a thing. What do we also see? ‘Things’ inserted in multiple orifices, one after the other... Two words...hygiene and infection. Within an established couple there are still risks but you know each other...

8) ...and where you’ve been! What is beautiful to watch are those videos etc that concentrate on the more sensual aspects of BDSM. That’s the reality. That’s what we do. Yes, there are collars, cuffs, gags, ropes, chains etc (who doesn’t want these ) but not the brutality...

9) ...that’s so often portrayed. As I have said, these are my thoughts only and I’m gearing my comments towards the newbies or less experienced. There are places and people to learn from. Porn is not an advisory educator unless it’s generally how not to do it.

10) ...If you’re still reading and not bored out of your box then here’s a lazy horse having breakfast