It’s hard to watch people circle the wagons when someone points out that they have been targeted by racial attitudes and it impacted them. Many say they are allies but if it involves a beloved institution, group, family member, spiritual community, guru... they become re abusers

They collude with abuse and abusers by silencing and shaming the person disclosing.

Please, I know it is hard to have your idealism about someone or some group disabused. But standing with victims of racial abuse means believing them and how racial language, attitudes, statements and policies harmed them.

Allegiance to a ‘community’ isn’t more important than standing with those most targeted by attitudes of white supremacy, or abuse. This is what leads to the ongoing harm of others and eventually comes out in very ugly ways which mark that community as unsafe,

as willing to cover up abuse and injustice to save their own idea or image of who they are, rather than creating a culture of accountability and equality.

Please, please learn how to be an ally. This cannot change if you reactively protect a beloved thing or person over the voices of survivors and victims of ANY form of abuse!