There's a legal difference in most jurisdictions.

"Pædophilia" implies prepubescent (from the Greek pais, paid- ‘child, boy’.).

"Underage women" refers to age of consent.

Having sex with someone postpubescent but under age is considered "statutory rape", not "pædophilia". https://twitter.com/DazMSmith/status/1279315925272072192
Under South African law, it is legal to have sex with a person under the age of consent (16) if the age differential between the participants is two years or less.

That's not pædophilia under our law; it's not even a crime (or we would lock up school kids).
There's a comprehensive list on Wikipedia of how various jurisdictions handle consent to sex.

There's a specific category called "Limited by relationship". Let's talk about that...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_age_of_consent
"Limited by relationship" means the younger partner is deemed able to consent to having sex as long as the older is not in a position of trust or authority, or is not recognised to be abusing the inexperience of the younger one.
South Africa law does not recognize this category, however, many jurisdictions do recognize "Limited by relationship" for legal consent: China 14, Japan 13, Germany 14, UK 16, France 15, Italy 14, Canada 16, S Korea 13... etc. etc.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_age_of_consent
The United States is particularly complicated as these laws vary from state to state.

For example, "Limited by relationship" is not recognized in New York, but cross the river to New Jersey and it is legal there.
In order to prove "grooming" (there's a f*cking misnomer if there ever was one) is not "consent" in terms of "limited by relationship", one would need to prove power differential or abuse of inexperience of the younger partner.

But the powerful can afford better lawyers...
Executive summary: We will never fix abuse — sexual or otherwise — by policing language.

Maybe try giving money to groups who prosecute offenders on behalf of those who cannot afford to do so?
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