I feel like Vanessa’s story should also open the floor to why female spouses need to stop treating female service members the way they do. Female service members deserve to be fought for and defended. You’re feeding into rape culture and the hate for female service members —

When you chime in talking down and verbally degrading women in the military. It’s not quirky, it doesn’t make them value you as a female, or see you as less of a dependa (bc they’ll still call you one) just bc you call women service members sluts, whores, or bitches.

When you put #SupportOurTroops in your bio it means all of them. And it should especially mean our female ones. You hear how male services members talk about their sisters in arms, do not perpetuate that. Do not let them think it’s okay to talk about them that way.

It’s important to ask yourself if you’re having that conversation at home with your husbands. It’s important that you’re having this conversation with your milspouse friends. Your feminism and pro-girl gang attitudes should include female service members.