Being anti-adoption doesn’t mean you want kids bounced around between foster homes. It means that you oppose the model whereby kids are severed from their family and reassigned a new identity and “family” ties.

Family is not just lovey-dovey feelings and Christmas cards. It’s culture, medical history, genetic mirroring, and more. Adoption denies people these things in the name of “permenency” and gets butthurt when those people realize there’s a problem with that.

“But what about [insert your scenario here]?! Do you want those kids [abused, abandoned, lonely, etc.]?! Who will take care of them?”

Good question. Adoption Culture has convinced people that it is The Only Option to keep kids from dying of heartbreak in dumpsters the world over. Adoption Culture is wrong.

Imagine a world where vulnerable parents were able to receive the support they need to raise their kids. Even if the kids were conceived in or born into situations that makes puritanical America clutch its pearls.

Imagine a society that truly believes no one should go hungry or be denied education, childcare, or healthcare (including mental health and addiction services!). That would negate the “need” for most adoptions right there.

“There’s always gonna be SOME kids who need to be adopted!” There’s always going to be some kids who need outside, long term care, yes. See: kinship care, legal guardianship, and the Stewardship Model. All allow for this without denying a child’s true family and identity.

Adoption doesn’t exist for the good of vulnerable kids. It exists so society can sweep the “sins” of “certain people” under the rug and privileged white couples can satiate their entitled desire to parent at all costs and perhaps their White Savior complex.