i& #39;d characterize how i& #39;ve been treated in poly relationships by cis ppl as incredibly normative. i am the 1st jettisoned, the least thought abt, yet the most fetishized. it& #39;s often felt alot like doing sex work for free, ironically the OG feminist critique of the family/marriage https://twitter.com/9BillionTigers/status/1278353091729846273">https://twitter.com/9BillionT...

cis ppl practicing "free love" w black + brown trans women who are deeply unfree without a deeper attachment to building a world in which we are free isn& #39;t radical. at best it& #39;s often "ethical consumption" it& #39;s romantic neoliberalism--we& #39;re exotic fair trade coffee, pun intended

a lot of the "non-normativity" cis ppl romanticize in polyamory as inherently "liberatory" ends at the critique of the inheritance of the norm family structure. not an actual critique of what that family structure is a place holder for; the accumulation of capital and property.

we should actually talk abt the ways polyamory often reifies this model of accumulation and speculation. a wealthy het couple "finding a 3rd" feels incredibly speculative/consumptive, it liberates--meaning makes free--what SWers would charge for

one of the constant antagonisms of being a trans woman esp a black trans woman is that cis ppl, incl. queer cis ppl& #39;s, fantasies of non-normativity/alterity from body/presentation to public/private life are not exotic nor speculations to us, but simply what we (dis)inherit

like the OP i& #39;ve also no desire to housewife but i get why other girls do. neither the original normy idea of a housewife nor its (less?) normy feminist critique were conceived of w specific attention to the experiences of black + brown trans women or more the world we disinherit