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today is the last day of pride month. there was not a single day when lesbians weren’t constantly being attacked, minimized, dismissed, invalidated and scrutinized by their lack of attraction towards men. so i’ve decided to make a thread about my personal experience.
first of all, i wanna say that i do NOT get to speak for all lesbians and their experiences, i am going to be speaking from my point of view and my experience with comphet and the lesbian discourse that i have to witness everyday from non lesbians. also i am a cis white woman.
it’s not even been a year since i’ve came out as a lesbian. & every single day i have to watch our sexuality be invaded and scrutinized. let me make this clear, right here and now: lesbian is not an umbrella term. lesbians do not feel attraction towards men. stop. that.
tw// comphet, lesbophobia
my experience with comphet has not been an easy one. i have extremely vivid nightmares every single night. most of them, with the men i was previously involved with. even the boy who sexually assaulted me. to say the least, it is not pleasant at all.
my experience with comphet has not been an easy one. i have extremely vivid nightmares every single night. most of them, with the men i was previously involved with. even the boy who sexually assaulted me. to say the least, it is not pleasant at all.
i write this, w tears in my eyes, to try and hope that maybe w having a little light about what a lesbian goes through with her lack of attraction towards men and the pressure of a society that forces her to try and have that, to try and be w men, you might start to understand.
you might started to understand why saying that lesbian is an umbrella term is hurtful and demeaning. why saying that bi/pan lesbians exist. that saying the d slur when you are not a lesbian is offensive. because no one, besides lesbians, goes through this.
every time someone says one of those things, it triggers another thought that we (mostly me rn from my own experience) deeply try to reject “there’s something wrong with me. why don’t i like men? maybe i do. i did throw myself at them almost my entire life. maybe they are right”
not only is the bi/pan lesbians discourse offensive towards lesbians, but also towards bi/pan women/nb people. these people are also constantly called “confused” and to pick a side. suggesting that they are lesbians, when lesbians lack attraction towards men, invalidates them.
i know the trolls that continuously defend these ridiculous concepts are probably laughing at my vulnerability rn and the things that i am sharing, but honestly, i hope this gets to some of you. you are hurting people, constantly. please, read this. think about it.
i feel like this thread doesn’t have a specific coherent line of thought but rn, i am a mess. i am tired. exhausted. i lack sleep. this might seem dramatic to you, but it’s exhausting. i forced myself my entire life to be a different person than i truly was.
every day is a constant battle. every night is a set back to every single thing i have done in my past that somehow makes me feel guilty and less of a lesbian. and every single time one of you does and say these things, it’s the same feeling. over and over again.
i do not want this to be like a pity party or some shit like that, not at all. i just feel like honesty and raw vulnerability might change a thing or two. so with that, i hope that you can try and understand why all those things mentioned before are hurtful and tiring.
if you’re not a lesbian, do not speak for us. if you’re not a lesbian, do not say dyke. bi/pan lesbians don’t exist. lesbian isn’t an umbrella term. lesbians do not feel attracted towards men. lesbian is not a bad word. not being attracted to men, is not bad.
and to every single one of my fellow lesbians reading this rn, i love you. you are extremely valid. i promise you. all of these other bitches don’t matter <3 no dykey, no talkey 
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and to anyone who wants to read more about comphet, to anyone who might be confused about their sexuality or someone that just wants to understand better, please read this. https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf">https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/c...
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