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After burying two boys I remember the comments attempting to be empathetic. The ones that truly hurt were ones that attempted to equate my pain over my boys to a similar experience in the speakerâs life. The one that stands out? âI had two dogs die recentlyâ
After burying two boys I remember the comments attempting to be empathetic. The ones that truly hurt were ones that attempted to equate my pain over my boys to a similar experience in the speakerâs life. The one that stands out? âI had two dogs die recentlyâ
I was taken aback as I knew this person was well intentioned. Iâve received many such comments since then. Most people mean well when they say things like that. If they can find a way to relate...we can have a common pain...a common humanity
Every time I hear comments like that though itâs jarring-kindness isnât predicated upon a shared experience
Similarly Iâve been seeing a lot of comparisons with social justice topics and it is feeling very very weird to me? Yâall...we donât have to make them all equal in order to fight for equity. Each issue is unique. Womanist scholars have proven that to me
When we make all justice issues the same...it feels a bit reductionist. It also feels weird when someone from the margins is quoted to prove your point. Letâs continue to advocate and learn but please donât throw them in a bowl. They all need to be studied and heard. Individually
Example-fighting against racism is in no way fighting against misogyny. They arenât related at all. To fight for women I need to do that work...separately. Itâs a long path. Also vice versa
Lastly, the rationale feels-if we donât tie all the justice issues together...who will fight for ALL the issues? Thatâs manipulation 
people have to do the work. As someone who is personally trying to evolve I donât force anyone else to evolve with me.
people have to do the work. As someone who is personally trying to evolve I donât force anyone else to evolve with me.
