WIFELADY: if I don't tell my husband explicitly what to do, step by step, it'll never get done haha men

HOLLY: haha no that's because he's a child and you married a child I'm sorry your generation was weird about sex

WIFELADY: huh

HOLLY: forty years of caring for a baby man

WIFELADY: my husband means well and I love him to death but

HOLLY: but he doesn't anticipate your needs

WIFELADY:

HOLLY: or educate himself about how care works

WIFELADY:

HOLLY: and surrendered over to you full dominion over housework chores and family duties

WIFELADY:

WIFELADY: my husband just shuts down if I try to talk to him about any of this, he changes the subject or walks away

HOLLY: that's because your husband is a fragile child who needs to control the emotional temperature of your relationship and he does it by withdrawing

WIFELADY: I buy him all these books, he never reads them

HOLLY: that's because if he read them, he'd be accountable to you for having read them and that's the obstacle isn't it: he doesn't want to hold himself accountable

WIFEGUY: I'm a total wife guy

WIFELADY: he loves being married, tho

HOLLY: lol who gives a fuck, men have always loved marriage because it works great for them

WIFELADY: but the pinterest board I made for our wedding made me so hopeful about what this would be like

HOLLY: every generation of women finds new fun ways to fall for the con, don't beat yourself up

The reason it's called the girlfriend experience and not the wife experience is because part of what makes having a wife fun for men is taking her for granted and not paying her

HOLLY: have you and your other wife friends thought about starting a union

WIFELADY: what do you mean

HOLLY: well it sounds like your working conditions are fucking miserable and possibly traumatizing

WIFELADY:

HOLLY: and you're not being paid for any of this