I noticed when I tell people about dating issues they immediately say “but you’re so amazing! Your person is coming” or “you’re so beautiful, it’s gonna happen!” And I just have to ask since when has women being amazing or beautiful guaranteed us a safe,fulfilled dating life?

History shows that beautiful, amazing, hard working women still get the short hand of the stick in dating. So I much rather us shift the conversation from “you’re so great it’s gonna happen!” To “if it does or doesn’t happen, how are you taking care of you in the meantime?”

Because the truth of the matter is it actually may not happen for me. I may not ever be married. I may not ever experience long term love. Or I may not have it in a traditional sense, and that reality isn’t a failure.... it’s a reality. It doesn’t matter how amazing I am.