I also have my own share of wrong doings and it is about time ill own up to them.

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It all started last year (April 2019) when I had my first alcohol driven sleepover. As first timers come by we got drunk. I got to sleep beside **** ( ill censor the name ) and everything went well, until of course I—

Sexually harassed her by touching her down there. My memory was cloudy but I remember what I did. Weeks later i confessed to her for what I have done and apologized for it too.

Anyway we ended up not talking for a long period, which is understandable with what I have done. After that period she messaged me and I was overjoyed, she made it clear that I shouldnt do it again and I have been forgiven.

However, months later is when I broke that agreement. I went and did it again. The same way as how it happened with the first one.

Im sorry for not being specific with what happened, for I am just boiling it down to what I have done wrong.

With the realization of what I did I immediately apologized, and went about my life.

Which is where I have been mistaken about it all, I have given trauma to these two women and I went about with my life. I, as guy did not understand the gravity of my actions and assumed that everything can be solved with a simple apology—

A simple apology could not heal the trauma I have given to these women, an apology could not revert what I have done, an apology consisted of words with no substance didnt make me viable for accountability.

And owning up to it by exposing myself of my maldoings is a step towards my accountability to what I have done. I am sorry for not giving substance to my apologies and not owning up properly to what I have done to you.

I am sorry for going about my life, overtaking the grievances and the trauma you had to encouter.

I am genuinely sorry for what I have done to you.

With all of those being said, I would like to plug my fellow guys who have done the same and not having owned up for it by means of exposing themselves

I have tweeted judt recently on why “ men have to go for solutions that is only convenient to them “ and I will stand by that tweet.

Being “ exposed “ does not mean the end of your reputation, rather it saves someone of theirs.

I have privately messaged these girls and I will not be naming them, they deserve the privacy of it, howver I DO NOT.

With my actions I have to uptake on a responsibility of owning up to what I have done. I hope that this will instill the thought of exposing yourself as a doing that isnt wrong.

With all that being said, I am genuinely sorry for what I have done, To the people I have disappointed, know that I will not make the dame mistake again. There is nowhere else to go but forward.

Also #MenAreTrash, not because I think I am not but because I know I AM, accountability can go so far.
This goes to show that women who are speaking up, can be heard and I hope many will hear them too.