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Some things you can do it you see harassment at a tournament that isn& #39;t just directly confronting the harasser (another thread because apparently I like to talk):
There are 3 main strategies for bystander intervention - distract/disrupt, delegate, and direct/confront.
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There are 3 main strategies for bystander intervention - distract/disrupt, delegate, and direct/confront.
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Distract/disrupt: do something to distract the harasser (hey you have a match, hey x friend was looking for you, hey come play friendlies with me) or get the victim out of the situation (hey I need to talk to you, hey come play friendlies, hey x friend was looking for you) ...
Distract/disrupt cont: You can check in with the victim at a later time to see if they& #39;re okay, if they want to follow up with a TO, or want other support/resources. I like this option because it& #39;s a easy non confrontational way to stop harassment and isn& #39;t as scary for folks ...
Delegate: find someone to help stop the harassment. Maybe this is a TO one of your friends or one of the victims friends. This is usually when you don& #39;t feel safe inserting yourself into the situation. This new person can use the distract/disrupt or direct/confront strategies ...
Direct/Confront: pretty much what you think when you think about stepping in to stop harassment. It& #39;s very directly telling the harasser that what they& #39;re doing is not okay and they need to stop. It may include explaining why it& #39;s wrong (that joke was bad because x) ...
Direct/confront cont. Pros to this is directly addressing the harassment and that there& #39;s a possibility the harasser realizes they& #39;re wrong and corrects the behaviour. It alsosets a precedent that this behavior isn& #39;t o okay. Cons are that it& #39;s hard to do this ...
Direct/confront cont: while it& #39;s what we think about when thinking about intervention it comes with the possibility of the harasser fighting back at the intervener verbally or physically. It can be scary to start a confrontation which may lead to in action ...
Final thoughts: so while I commend folks who can directly address harassment, I think that many find distract/disrupt safer and easier to do and that& #39;s OKAY. Doing anything to stop harassment is good. What& #39;s bad is standing by and letting it play out.
Final thoughts cont: don& #39;t devalue the pros of getting victims out of bad situations because "you& #39;re not addressing the actual behaviour" it isn& #39;t hard to go back to the harasser and have a convo in a less stressful environment or get someone else to be w/ you ...
Final thoughts cont: so you feel safer. Distracting in the moment doesn& #39;t mean there& #39;s no direct conversation in the future. It doesn& #39;t mean this behaviour isn& #39;t brought up to TOs. It means you& #39;re focusing on keeping the victim safe in the moment.
Resources/more reading below
Resources/more reading below
Sources/more info:
Bystander intervention: http://nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/2018-02/publications_nsvrc_tip-sheet_bystander-intervention-tips-and-strategies_1.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwignO3T0KfqAhVbHzQIHXMhAxAQFjAMegQIBxAB&usg=AOvVaw1QcdCJza_i3ky8ncCBwuIS
Sexual">https://nsvrc.org/sites/def... harassment overview & how to support:
http://Washington.edu/safecampus/harassment-and-sexual-harassment/
Prevention">https://Washington.edu/safecampu... resources: http://nsvrc.org/prevention ">https://nsvrc.org/preventio...
Bystander intervention: http://nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/2018-02/publications_nsvrc_tip-sheet_bystander-intervention-tips-and-strategies_1.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwignO3T0KfqAhVbHzQIHXMhAxAQFjAMegQIBxAB&usg=AOvVaw1QcdCJza_i3ky8ncCBwuIS
Sexual">https://nsvrc.org/sites/def... harassment overview & how to support:
http://Washington.edu/safecampus/harassment-and-sexual-harassment/
Prevention">https://Washington.edu/safecampu... resources: http://nsvrc.org/prevention ">https://nsvrc.org/preventio...
