why “bi lesbian” arguments are redundant and harmful - a thread.

so i’ve noticed some key components of the “bi lesbian” argument. one is that these bi women consider themselves simultaneously bisexual and lesbian due to them being attracted to women & fem aligned nonbinary people. the issue with this is that they see nonbinary as a 3rd gender

- & that they are bisexual because they are attracted to both women nonbinary people. nonbinary people are NOT a third gender. the point is that they do not conform to the gender binary. therefore, you may consider yourself a lesbian if you are attracted to women + nonbinary -

people. what makes someone bisexual - as described by the bisexual manifesto (1990) is an attraction to multiple genders & this IS LIKELY TO INCLUDE MEN. let me repeat myself - nonbinary is NOT a gender. so it goes without saying u can be attracted to nonbinary people and

consider yourself gay, bi, or lesbian if you so wish. however - lesbians are NOT ATTRACTED TO MEN. but bisexuals are. the issue with a “bi lesbian” is that it insinuates that lesbians are capable of being attracted to men, & are therefore capable of being “turned.” our sexuality

is NOT fluid. we are ONLY attracted to women & nonbinary fem aligned people. this is not difficult to understand. it is inherently lesbophobic to try to twist, alter, or expand the definition of lesbianism when we have fought so long to have the right to exclude men from our

sexual and romantic preferences. “bi lesbianism” is extremely harmful to lesbians. i’m not bi, but it is ALSO disrespectful to bisexuals who have fought for their attraction to both / multiple genders to be recognised.

another argument i’ve heard. a “bi lesbian” WAS attracted to men in the past & had meaningful relationships with them but NOW feels no attraction towards men. this is something that is actually the case with me. i have felt attraction towards men in the past.

however, due to trauma, i no longer feel attraction to men. the keyword is “no longer.” i haven’t for a long time and i believe i never will. therefore, i may call myself a lesbian! if Right Now you feel absolutely no attraction towards men & u feel this is a permanent aspect

of your sexuality, you are a lesbian. it’s redundant to refer to yourself as bi because you simply do not feel attraction to multiple genders, as is the criteria for being a bisexual.

lastly - the idea that sexuality is fluid or that one is a bi lesbian because they have a preference for / choose to date women. let me make it clear that just because you fluctuate between liking men more one day and women more the next, you are not a lesbian. lesbians NEVER

like men. that’s the point. furthermore, if you feel attraction to both genders but only choose to date women, the fact remains that u are attracted to men. if you have excluded men from your life completely, i don’t wish to tell you that you may not identify as a

lesbian - however, the term “bi lesbian” is extremely harmful as mentioned before. the sexualities contradict one another ! and these boundaries are very very important to people. imagine how unsafe it is for a lesbian if men continue to think they can “convince” her to sleep

with them. not to mention the erasure of our history and our fight to live as lesbians, when that identify itself is a rejection of everything society wants from us. do not disrespect the hardship lesbians have endured in order to live a life which does NOT centre around men.

this too for people who identify as “biromantic homosexuals” or vice versa! https://twitter.com/luvrhye/status/1277662691637768193?s=21 https://twitter.com/luvrhye/status/1277662691637768193