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With all the break ups and new connections that will be going on these next couple of weeks, I want to remind y’all of a few things to help you navigate dating and love right now (a thread).
1. Be wary of love bombers and people that want to move too quickly in a relationship. You need time to get to know each other. Plus, a lot of love bombers end up being inconsistent and revealing clear red flags later in the connection when you feel it’s too late to get out.
2. Don’t let the connection consume you. Break ups honestly hurt the most when you find yourself unable to be alone or live without them. Don’t lose yourself in the relationship so much that you forget who you are and what you like to do.
3. Just because you found somebody doesn’t mean you need to cancel everything for them and stop seeing your friends. You SHOULD have a personal life outside of your partner.
4. Someone saying they can’t live without you and need you is a huge red flag for co-dependency. So as a reminder: you want to attract a healthy connection where your partner is okay with being alone, but would rather have you in their life because of your energy.
5. Stop putting pressure on yourself to find your soulmate/marriage partner. You’re so afraid of getting hurt that you romantize this. Relationships are meant to help you grow, learn, & love. Let Source guide you where you need to be & stop thinking so much of the end goal.
6. You need to establish standards and stick with them. The Universe will often test you by bringing someone along that doesn’t meet these to see if you’re able to uphold boundaries in a relationship. If you can’t stand your ground, you’re not ready for a connection.
7. Learn. About. Their Family. This will give you a lot of insight on how they will treat you as a person and if they’ve done the healing necessary before entering a relationship. Before you jump the gun, you NEED to learn about their family & how they act towards them.
8. At the first sign of gas lighting, RUN. I’m telling you, a partner that doesn’t care for your feelings & makes you seem like the bad guy for having them is not someone that will easily change. They need therapy, & you are not their therapist. It’s not your job to change them.
9. Stop putting pressure on yourself for them to like you or connect with you. Their approval or disapproval of you doesn’t define who you are as a person. You are a divine being and if they don’t recognize that, move on baby there’s plenty of options to go around.
10. Lastly, be mindful about the way you speak to yourself and others about love & relationships. If you’re constantly saying that you have no options and that it’s impossible to find a healthy connection, the Universe will respond with the same frequency.
I don’t care if in your current reality you have no options. You better speak to yourself and others like you do! Your past connections DO NOT define your future ones. You want better? Then talk to yourself like you already have better and stop settling for less.
