Anyway I actually came on here to rant about my therapist. Because he's now insinuating that I'm unable to take a challenge and sit with that discomfort... And it's so patronising and defensive.

I'm happy to be challenged and I welcome it. But at the moment my therapist is... confusing me rather than challenging me in clear ways that lead to growth and understanding.

As a therapist, you should be able to challenge your client in a way that actually makes sense to them?

Whereas he just leaves me feeling lost and unsure of what next steps are for growth, or how to practically incorporate what he's saying into my life. Tbh I often don't even understand what the challenge is itself anyway...?

And I've asked him to explain several times. And every time he tries to explain he just gets more convoluted and foggy and contradictory in his statements...

It just feels very shitty to have your therapist imply that the problem is definitely you and your apparent resistance to challenge, as opposed to acknowledging that maybe there's a communication problem on your side too? It feels lowkey gaslighty.

And also very Not Okay considering he knows how introspective I am and how much of a guilt complex I have. And therefore how quickly I accept and how seriously I take criticism and challenge from others...