10 things Every single person should know before marriage .

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1. Love is a decision . Understanding this will make your marriage last long . You decide to live and keep loving even when you don’t feel like in that moment . If your love is based on emotions only you will live a miserable life .

2. Attraction is important. Marry who you are attracted to physically,emotionally and spiritually . For attraction to be wholesome it must be three-dimensional . When you marry for let’s say physical attraction and you ignore the other two ,soon you will be fed up .

3. Money is important in marriage . Settle this in your mind . Money makes marriages work better . I didn’t say wealth or riches . I said Money . A stable source of income is crucial to a healthy marriage . Don’t be deceived .

4. Sex is the engine oil of a good marriage . When there is no oil there will be friction . Discuss this with your intending partner before marriage but keep sex until marriage . Sex before marriage is a raging bull that cannot be controlled .

5. Go for romantic and functional . Ensure you are in love with a person who is functional and with whom you are stronger together . The truth is the difference between love and lust is purpose . Purpose is functional ! Lust is purposeless !

6. Marriage doesn’t change you but people change in marriage . Don’t marry anyone with the hope that they will change . Marry with the decision that you will love your spouse irrespective of the changes that show up in marriage .

7. Marriage is of the earth . The married can carry out spiritual activities but marriage is of this earth and doesn’t transcend here . So wait for the right person . Be patient . No need to rush . You have time !

8. Kids changes everything. Don’t rush to have them . Have them when you are ready . When they come ensure you have made plans for them . Know this , kids are a blessing but they are like rain . If you Pray for rain , get ready to deal with the mud .

9. In marriage , dating shouldn’t stop . You keep chasing each other . You keep wooing each other . Keep forgiving each other because in the end you truly really only have each other .

10. Marriage must not hinder your personal growth and development. It actually should enhance it . Don’t stand still because you are a wife or a husband . Two are better than one so travel faster !