No one knows how to talk about the violence that occurs within families
And apparently that& #39;s too complicated to slot into your lil narratives so you just pretend like it doesn& #39;t exist
Except that it is so goddamn common.
And apparently that& #39;s too complicated to slot into your lil narratives so you just pretend like it doesn& #39;t exist
Except that it is so goddamn common.
The nuclear family is an abuse factory
It is a machine that not only hides abuse, allowing it to thrive
But it is also a machine that creates abusers
It is a machine that not only hides abuse, allowing it to thrive
But it is also a machine that creates abusers
And I am just so sorry but I have not heard anyone have any kind of proposal that will even start to put a dent in the violence that is the nuclear family
The abuse of children which distorts their entire lives-
That is the sickness at the ROOT of so many social problems
The abuse of children which distorts their entire lives-
That is the sickness at the ROOT of so many social problems
Please stop pretending that communities can just magically handle child abuse within the family
Because it& #39;s communities that are allowing that to continue RIGHT NOW. TODAY.
Because it& #39;s communities that are allowing that to continue RIGHT NOW. TODAY.
It is a fantasy that communities would somehow expel or police the people who are abusive to their kids as a solution to child abuse and partner abuse.
It assumes that communities will actually care about that.
But they already don& #39;t???
It assumes that communities will actually care about that.
But they already don& #39;t???
Most people will decide not to believe someone rather than have to engage in a process that is difficult with someone who even WANTS to participate
So if they don& #39;t want to participate, what then??
So if they don& #39;t want to participate, what then??
I don& #39;t KNOW what to do about this problem but I know that pretending like a group of people isn& #39;t going to act like every other group of people doesn& #39;t make any damn sense to me
And that& #39;s assuming the community just doesn& #39;t outright condone child abuse
WHICH SOME OF THEM DO
And that& #39;s assuming the community just doesn& #39;t outright condone child abuse
WHICH SOME OF THEM DO
No one is doing anything about this issue and we don& #39;t talk or think about it
But most of the shit that really fucks people up happens inside their family or their community
And it& #39;s generally KNOWN that it is happening
And nothing is done
But most of the shit that really fucks people up happens inside their family or their community
And it& #39;s generally KNOWN that it is happening
And nothing is done
People need different structures of support and they need safe, happy and joyful, non-stigmatized places to go live when they decide they want to leave
And we need to let children be in charge of who has legal custody of them... somehow
And we need to let children be in charge of who has legal custody of them... somehow
In my faint graspings at what could be done to really fix child abuse, I have come to the conclusion that there has to be a way for a child to say- I can& #39;t live with my family anymore
And that there would be somewhere nice they could go live instead, that didn& #39;t ruin them
And that there would be somewhere nice they could go live instead, that didn& #39;t ruin them
Most people are more prepared to step in to stop someone they know from hurting a pet than from hurting their child.
That& #39;s the situation we are in
That& #39;s the situation we are in