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It was awhile ago something I learned about how context can matter. As most probably know I have anxiety issues especially with woman due to past relationship issues. As you see I mainly solo when playing multiplayer games. We'll use a Vault of glass experience first. Was invited
To run a Vault of glass run in destiny 1 (the run was never finished) So I was just a random pulled into the fireteam. I hear a woman's voice "Hopefully he isn't a dick" I just kinda sat quiet because I am shy & thought wow what woman go through online in games. Disco ghost balls
and dancing were fun as them goblin vex snipers kept nailing us. So more to the learning context matters, I asked someone "woman" if they wanted to play doubles in destiny 2 just to see if I could communicate and let go of the shyness, nervousness, and anxiety. One thing I didn't
realize when asking because the playlist was in crimson days event. The context was took as romantic FML, anyway accepted the no and did apologize because it wasn't meant to be romantic. I didn't mention what happened in that vault of glass run.
So I learned I have to be better with context and actual goal I am trying to attain. You could say I am a bit broken especially when it comes to the online gaming voice chat. I was use to looking down in public, not being able to have female friends, not being able to answer a
woman's question when they asked me. Always in fear of what my now ex would do.
There is a lot of things I have to re-learn and also new things to learn. It's one thing to use a keyboard to communicate but is boss level to irl/voice chat communicate for myself.
Saving past things like this can be helpful maybe we could use examples of it without names but highlight the areas I could have worded something better and what I should have added like actual goal intended.
Messages are in whole starts from bottom to top. I edited showing areas I totally messed up. I totally went wrong on how I wrote the first, then there is their response, my response back. Noticed how this handled and how men should handle things instead of being dicks.
Actual goals were asking (risk taking), the other goals weren't mentioned like in this thread. Trying to interact work on communication skills, dealing with nervousness, anxiety, and shyness when playing with other gamers that happen to be woman. I learned from this experience.
