Thread by @GrimViktorean, ... As a gender fluid pansexual, I have to say... I take [...]

... As a gender fluid pansexual, I have to say...
I take issue with the phrase "pride will always be a protest".
Only because it can be taken as never wanting the fight to end. Which I would call ridiculous, if it weren't for the fact that I was effectively pushed out -

Of being an LGBT activist in my area because I wasn't extreme enough. These folks wanted to hurt straights as much as we'd been hurt. They wanted revenge, under the mask of equality. I watched them turn into the very thing we were fighting against. I was beaten half to death -

By skinheads outside of a church (I had assumed I'd get some sanctuary, but the priest apparently wanted nothing to do with it and slammed the door in my face after they threatened they'd break in and do it anyway), just because I was gay. Was I pissed about it? Hell yes. Did -

I have a desire for revenge? You bet your ass I did. But I never started lumping all cishet folk into a broad category like these people who I thought were friends.

I get it. "Always has and always will be a protest" Means, for a lot of folks, "until we're wholly equal."

All-

I'm asking is try and be careful how you use it. Without that subtextual limit that frankly many people wouldn't have thought of, it can be taken as never wanting the fight to end, always wanting to be special in some way, not true equality and normalcy, but always "something" -

Which really is not what the fight is about, though it is a sentiment I've heard in quiet conversation. My cishet fiancee took this that way, when it was accompanied by a very strongly worded tweet that almost felt anti-hetero. It's unfortunate majority of her experience -

Is with the more "out there" people in this large and disjointed community. I have to constantly remind her that Twitter and the few idiots she deals with in discord servers are very loud but very minutely small portions of the community, and only make up maybe 3% at most. After-

All, there are a lot of us who, like me, prefer to try and sit out the louder ones because we assume (hope) they'll figure it out themselves, and are just tired of the endless arguing.

What was the point of this thread? Fuck if I know. I just woke up after stewing on the combative "us vs them" Nature of the idiots my fiancee has to deal with, completely nonsensical commentary like "Everyone is Bi/Gay", " All bi people are just half in the closet" Etc etc. And-

The fact that my fiancee is feeling more and more threatened because the ass hats she deals with in the community, those idiotic, extremist few, are really starting to get to her. Which even though she's been sheltered due to a variety of mental disorders (ptsd, bipolar, -

Borderline personality disorder, depression, severe social anxiety) since she was a child by her overly Catholic family, she's still not that much different from the average cishet person these days.

The whole point of pride and these protests is to fight discrimination, but

The goal is to normalize LGBTQ+ to the point where *we don't need Pride anymore*. I'm just starting to wonder if the vernacular is clear to those outside the community, or is starting to take on inflammatory connotations thanks to echo chambers.

Ah well. That's enough of

This rambling. Time to get up and make breakfast.

Just remember to love and respect each other y'all. The sword is mighty, but the heart is what wins a population.

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