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Can we please normalize or at least get out of the habit of thinking “unproblematic” people exist. When you say “stan ____ they’re unproblematic” or “ our unproblematic [insert pronoun here], what that really translates to is: This human being is perfect.
Allow me to explain.
Allow me to explain.
There is no such thing as a “perfect” human being. What you’re describing would be classified as a god or in this case a persona. What you’re really want to say is: “this person has a perfect persona.” The image that they’ve creative for themselves is something idol worthy.
Humans make mistakes everyday. They say/do/participate in things that are of problematic nature EVERY DAY. Even if it’s something they’ve supposedly unlearned. It takes roughly around the same amount of years you’ve learned something to also unlearn it. Thus births a persona.
Humans can trick their minds into bringing forth different personalities. It takes some effort, but it’s not impossible. Putting on a mask is one of the easiest ways of showing “growth” in society. Fake? Yes. Human nature? Absolutely.
I know what you’re thinking. “IM NOT FAKE. AND I REALLY HAVE UNLEARNED EVERYTHING!”
Have you really though? We as a human race have created “cutesy words for our masks to be accepted in society. You have a different mask for different settings (home,job,school).
Have you really though? We as a human race have created “cutesy words for our masks to be accepted in society. You have a different mask for different settings (home,job,school).
Ever heard the saying “you never really know someone until you’ve lived with them?” In fact you’ll probably catch them in the act of changing masks. Do we do this on purpose? No. Our brains do it for us naturally. it’s instinct to adapt to different situations.
So what is the point of this thread? A lot of people truly believe that they are unproblematic and have unlearned terrible things in a short time period. Only the reality of this involves another mask. They still think about these unproblematic things when emotional.
“I’m not __phobic!” Gets mad at someone and THINKS about __phobic things, but doesn’t because it goes against the mask. Then quickly brushes away the thought. We can’t hear what people are thinking nor can we read their hearts so how do we know they’re actually unproblematic?
Well their persona is most definitely “unproblematic”. This is why people can’t accept it when thier “favs” disappoint them because their persona has been nearly perfect in peoples eyes until the mask falls off. You will never KNOW what happens off screen.
Claiming people to be unproblematic/perfect is harmful. It’s “hopeful” stress.
NO ONE is unproblematic and that’s okay. You are trying your best to unlearn things that are trapped in the unconscious mind. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN OVER NIGHT.
NO ONE is unproblematic and that’s okay. You are trying your best to unlearn things that are trapped in the unconscious mind. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN OVER NIGHT.
Me included. I am not unproblematic, my persona is. They’re things I still struggle with unlearning. Internalized misogyny being the hardest one since it’s so heavily ingrained into our society. I may not say misogynistic things, but sadly I do think of them unconsciously.
Sorry to “ruin” your image of me. It’s the truth. While my subconscious mind hold my ethics and morals the unconscious part holds the reality of bullshit that our society upholds. Just keep in mind what type of pressure you put on others when you deem them “unproblematic”.
