Read on TwitterWhen women write at work, they often use more exclamation marks and snuggly writing!
Is this because of a difference in women? Or a difference in how we treat women? *Hugs!*
What is the penalty for *not* writing in a way that coddles the reader enough? 
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="⭐" title="Mittelgroßer Stern" aria-label="Emoji: Mittelgroßer Stern">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🌈" title="Regenbogen" aria-label="Emoji: Regenbogen">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🐶" title="Hundegesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Hundegesicht"> Lash back from dudes?
What is the penalty for seeming *too* cheery and deferential?https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💙" title="Blaues Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Blaues Herz">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💚" title="Grünes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Grünes Herz">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💛" title="Gelbes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Gelbes Herz">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💜" title="Violettes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Violettes Herz"> Not enough "leadership presence?"
Thread that needle!
What is the penalty for seeming *too* cheery and deferential?
Thread that needle!
But her job requires her to review other people& #39;s code. Every day!
Smile more!
Even women that master these additional constraints on communication, use some percentage of their mental energy to do so.
This creates a performance drag.
This sprinter is fast! But if her peers don& #39;t also have parachutes, she& #39;ll probably either look slower, or get tired first
This creates a performance drag.
This sprinter is fast! But if her peers don& #39;t also have parachutes, she& #39;ll probably either look slower, or get tired first
So what& #39;s the solution? If the game is rigged so that women can& #39;t win... then change the game. Change the rules so they don& #39;t have to thread that needle.
Y& #39;all love Star Trek right? Basically catnip for tech folk? Well then Kobayashi Maru the communication rules on your team.https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="👍🏿" title="Thumbs up (dunkler Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Thumbs up (dunkler Hautton)">
Y& #39;all love Star Trek right? Basically catnip for tech folk? Well then Kobayashi Maru the communication rules on your team.
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You only have to do this a few times to start changing the culture on your team.
When a woman faces this type of criticism for written comms:
1) Talk to dude about it. Tell him it& #39;s not OK.
2) Tell the woman that her text was fine.
3) Tell her you that you talked to dude.
When a woman faces this type of criticism for written comms:
1) Talk to dude about it. Tell him it& #39;s not OK.
2) Tell the woman that her text was fine.
3) Tell her you that you talked to dude.
Do it every time you see it, but I promise, you& #39;ll only do it a few times before you start to notice a change.
Confession: I& #39;m not as good a manager as folk think I am!https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤫" title="Schh!-Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Schh!-Gesicht"> The initial improvement seen in my reports isn& #39;t all them "getting faster." I just cut parachutes off. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏿♂️" title="Achselzuckender Mann (dunkler Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Achselzuckender Mann (dunkler Hautton)">
Confession: I& #39;m not as good a manager as folk think I am!
