I would like to talk to other demisexual people about how it works for them.

Relationships, casual sex, porn, lewd/nude consumption habits.

If you prefer erotica, RP, audio, etc., feel free to say so.

If you're demisexual, please share what you will.

Here's mine below:

I watch porn but it's just to get an orgasm out with a sex toy alone, usually.

The bodies of people in porn don't actually arouse me - I often focus more on watching hardcore because the genital interaction + audio is usually what's getting me off.

So in a similar vein, I really don't much care about receiving nudes from others unless we're close or partnered.

I only begin to find someone's body sexy once we're bonded enough.

I mean I've had aesthetic crushes, I have "types" (way more than just one) that I often find cute

But, for example:

The first time Emmy and I did a sexual RP when we were getting to know one another, she offered me a dick pic.

I told her I'd rather see her smile first.

Disembodied penises attached to people I'm not emotionally interested in are not sexy to me.

Hence why every unsolicited dick pic is the virtual equivalent of spam mail.

Yeah I know what dicks look like and enjoy them

but why in god's name would I give a shit about yours, Captain e-Rection?

Length, width doesn't matter, stranger penis just leaves me cold & bored

And bear in mind, if more dick pics were creative and interesting, I'd pay attention.

It wouldn't turn me on unless you turned me on, but at least it didn't waste my time if it made me chuckle.

My phone still has screens of a friend's fantastic cock salad. THAT'S entertainment.

And while I find my friend attractive, it's still different from the way I find Emmy attractive, because Emmy and I far more deeply emotionally intimate.

She's always had a beautiful body, but once I was head over heels it became physically arousing to see her show it off.

A dick pic from the friend I'm into but not in love with can be interesting

it can draw my attention, get me to chat about pervy things if the mood strikes me...

But it's really the interaction we have together talking after that titillates me on a physical level, not the pics

I also historically enjoy audio and written erotica.

I was jerking off to words looooong before I ever saw people humping on a computer, y'all.

And I spent most of my teen years having phonesex so of course I'm aurally-motivated.

I like swapping lewds and nudes with my friends even if I don't have the same like...

Idk, "demi click"?

with them like with someone I'm in love with.

being in love can make their body downright intoxicating, sight, scent

But I can't recall a time I've jerked off to my friend's lewds before we were really emotionally intimate, even if it was a FWB's lewds they intended for that sort of purpose.

It's convenient, actually, to work around porn people and appreciate their attractiveness

w/o getting viscerally turned on while engaging w content in swaps & tweets.

Sometimes I think it's part of what keeps me from getting tired of the community

Sex is more... abstract to me

I call myself "sex-casual" bc we all know many ppl mistakenly assume all ace or grey-ace (like demi folx!) ppl don't want to have sex, or certainly not casual sex.

I don't have to be "sexually attracted" to anybody to fuck 'em, though.

Just intrigued enough to think it'd be fun

In my early 20s, lacking the vocab for my specific sexuality, I referred to myself as a "serial friend fucker."

Bc more often than not I'd just fall in love with a best friend

And then I'd be like AHH HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS BINESS WITHOUT LOSING MY FRIEND if I didn't know their sexuality

and then I'd just never make a move.

And for folks who aren't demi who read this, that doesn't mean we fall in love and/or become sexually attracted to all our friends.

(I say fall in love bc that's what triggers the attraction for me usually but let's not forget aromantic people exist!)

Just some of y'all.

I've got old best friends from when we were 5, 6, 7 years old I've never wanted to fuck despite being very close

But nobody I've been physically attracted to who wasn't a close friend first

Oh! Something else that might bear relevance to my demi experiences:

I have aphantasia. I can't imagine pictures I've never seen in my mind. Even my visual memory isn't super good.

When I visualize or try to fantasize it's mostly feeling and an audio track in my head.

Words.