Thread by @SugarCunt, I would like to talk to other demisexual people about how it [...]

I would like to talk to other demisexual people about how it works for them.

Relationships, casual sex, porn, lewd/nude consumption habits.

If you prefer erotica, RP, audio, etc., feel free to say so.

If you& #39;re demisexual, please share what you will.

Here& #39;s mine below:

I watch porn but it& #39;s just to get an orgasm out with a sex toy alone, usually.

The bodies of people in porn don& #39;t actually arouse me - I often focus more on watching hardcore because the genital interaction + audio is usually what& #39;s getting me off.

So in a similar vein, I really don& #39;t much care about receiving nudes from others unless we& #39;re close or partnered.

I only begin to find someone& #39;s body sexy once we& #39;re bonded enough.

I mean I& #39;ve had aesthetic crushes, I have "types" (way more than just one) that I often find cute

But, for example:

The first time Emmy and I did a sexual RP when we were getting to know one another, she offered me a dick pic.

I told her I& #39;d rather see her smile first.

Disembodied penises attached to people I& #39;m not emotionally interested in are not sexy to me.

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Hence why every unsolicited dick pic is the virtual equivalent of spam mail.

Yeah I know what dicks look like and enjoy them

but why in god& #39;s name would I give a shit about yours, Captain e-Rection?

Length, width doesn& #39;t matter, stranger penis just leaves me cold & bored

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And bear in mind, if more dick pics were creative and interesting, I& #39;d pay attention.

It wouldn& #39;t turn me on unless you turned me on, but at least it didn& #39;t waste my time if it made me chuckle.

My phone still has screens of a friend& #39;s fantastic cock salad. THAT& #39;S entertainment.

And while I find my friend attractive, it& #39;s still different from the way I find Emmy attractive, because Emmy and I far more deeply emotionally intimate.

She& #39;s always had a beautiful body, but once I was head over heels it became physically arousing to see her show it off.

A dick pic from the friend I& #39;m into but not in love with can be interesting

it can draw my attention, get me to chat about pervy things if the mood strikes me...

But it& #39;s really the interaction we have together talking after that titillates me on a physical level, not the pics

I also historically enjoy audio and written erotica.

I was jerking off to words looooong before I ever saw people humping on a computer, y& #39;all.

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And I spent most of my teen years having phonesex so of course I& #39;m aurally-motivated.

I like swapping lewds and nudes with my friends even if I don& #39;t have the same like...

Idk, "demi click"?

with them like with someone I& #39;m in love with.

being in love can make their body downright intoxicating, sight, scent

But I can& #39;t recall a time I& #39;ve jerked off to my friend& #39;s lewds before we were really emotionally intimate, even if it was a FWB& #39;s lewds they intended for that sort of purpose.

It& #39;s convenient, actually, to work around porn people and appreciate their attractiveness

w/o getting viscerally turned on while engaging w content in swaps & tweets.

Sometimes I think it& #39;s part of what keeps me from getting tired of the community

Sex is more... abstract to me

I call myself "sex-casual" bc we all know many ppl mistakenly assume all ace or grey-ace (like demi folx!) ppl don& #39;t want to have sex, or certainly not casual sex.

I don& #39;t have to be "sexually attracted" to anybody to fuck & #39;em, though.

Just intrigued enough to think it& #39;d be fun

In my early 20s, lacking the vocab for my specific sexuality, I referred to myself as a "serial friend fucker."

Bc more often than not I& #39;d just fall in love with a best friend

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And then I& #39;d be like AHH HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS BINESS WITHOUT LOSING MY FRIEND if I didn& #39;t know their sexuality

and then I& #39;d just never make a move.

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And for folks who aren& #39;t demi who read this, that doesn& #39;t mean we fall in love and/or become sexually attracted to all our friends.

(I say fall in love bc that& #39;s what triggers the attraction for me usually but let& #39;s not forget aromantic people exist!)

Just some of y& #39;all.

I& #39;ve got old best friends from when we were 5, 6, 7 years old I& #39;ve never wanted to fuck despite being very close

But nobody I& #39;ve been physically attracted to who wasn& #39;t a close friend first

Oh! Something else that might bear relevance to my demi experiences:

I have aphantasia. I can& #39;t imagine pictures I& #39;ve never seen in my mind. Even my visual memory isn& #39;t super good.

When I visualize or try to fantasize it& #39;s mostly feeling and an audio track in my head.

Words.

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