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If I ‘liked’ or responded approvingly to a comment which indicated that ginger people shouldn’t be allowed to exist, or mocking them for asking not be called rancid carrots, I should expect ginger people to block me so that they don’t have to be exposed to my dislike of them
If I commented “oh jolly well-said, I agree” on a discussion of how clever and useful an idea eugenics is, I should expect to be blocked by disabled people who don’t need to see that shit on their TL and don’t feel safe engaging with me.
If a mate of mine wrote a vicious and inflammatory screed about how awful it is that they should be asked to respect others’ rights and freedoms, and I stood by and applauded, it’d be reasonable to assume I endorse that position and am against those rights & freedoms
If I were merely interested in having a theoretical debate from a position of privilege about who gets to exist/be accepted and who goes on the rubbish tip; I should not expect the very people I’m writing off to welcome me with open arms
I might feel slighted, or unfairly judged, or like I’m the victim; but my indignation at being shunned would not validate the actions which caused me to be shunned in the first place. I am not entitled to get in people’s faces and refuse to budge while I’m being horrible to them
If you’ve been blocked by someone, you have 2 valid choices:
Get over it and move on with your life
Figure out what went wrong and try to rehabilitate the relationship
No-one owes you a hearing, though.
(NB: ‘rehabilitate’ doesn’t mean ‘pRoVe tHEm wRoNG’)
Get over it and move on with your life
Figure out what went wrong and try to rehabilitate the relationship
No-one owes you a hearing, though.
(NB: ‘rehabilitate’ doesn’t mean ‘pRoVe tHEm wRoNG’)
If you hurt someone and they turn away from you to protect themselves, you don’t have the obligation or an entitlement to force them to change their mind about whether you’re safe to be around, no matter how unfair you think they are being to you.
It’s a consent issue. If someone does not give/withdraws consent to have personal interactions with another person, then that is their choice!
I’d hope that sex bloggers understand consent, so it surprises me that this apparently needs spelling out.
I’d hope that sex bloggers understand consent, so it surprises me that this apparently needs spelling out.
There’s a big difference between between ‘feeling butthurt at being ostracised for punching downwards‘ and ‘being oppressed’. That difference is not defined by your emotional response, but by the pattern of what you do and say to others.
Item 2642882 of Things I Learned The Hardest Way Possible And Wish I’d Done Better At.
(I should maybe add that I *don’t* dislike red/orange/auburn hair or people who have it; because that would be narrow-minded and stupid. I’d hope that was obvious but this IS Twitter, so it never hurts to pre-empt radically incorrect takes)
