Here’s the thing. I can’t switch off what my survival instincts tell me. Happy to call you whatever you like. Happy to let you live how you like. But my brain won’t lie to me about what I see before me. It’s deep rooted and it’s an instinct we need to survive.

There is no way of policing people’s minds - no matter how much some people try. Imagining that people will stop seeing you as a man because you put on women’s clothes is setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache and disappointment.

Relying on validation from others is setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache and disappointment. As a woman, I’ve come to learn this late in life (40) - I’ve waited a lifetime for a man to validate me and make me feel like a worthy woman. You know what?

It’s never happened. I’ve had to learn how to validate myself and screw what anyone else thinks.

Stop relying on others to make you feel something. Stop trying to police peoples minds. This is your only shot at inner peace.